There is nothing like staying at home for real comfort – Jane Austen
Reminiscing my last trip to Jakarta, 4th – 10th of March 2014.. Visiting my parents, for my mom’s birthday, meeting my good old friends, visiting few new places.. 6 days of changes were good enough to refresh my mind..
But here is what happened behind that fun trip overall.. After I’ve got use to living alone most of the time since 2005, being totally independent, doing anything with the responsibilities all on my own, makes me a little bit difficult to had to stay with my parents again. Of course I do miss them so much but honestly some times it was just kinda irritating by being asked many stuff such as why I go out a lot with my friends (in fact I only went out with my friends for 2 times during my 6 days in Jakarta), why I didn’t spend all my time with my parents during my trip until being asked about my near future plans many times which left me nothing but high pressure and I have to face it no matter what..
I know I should be more understanding and more mature in facing it and actually yes I felt I was better in handling that situation compared to my previous visits. I keep imagining maybe one day if I had kids, I think I would do the same without I noticed it..Who knows.. As I realized that’s just because they really love you and worried so much about you without realizing it became the pressure for the kids..
At the end, I always keep in mind that parents, all over the world, only want what’s best for their kids and they work so hard for their children to reach their goals and dreams. And nobody loves you more than your parents do.. No matter how much your life partner loves you, nothing compared to parents’ love. It is true. And regardless how old you are, you will always be the kids on your parents’ eyes..
No matter how I love my life in Bali at the moment, I will keep visiting my parents regularly at least once a year. Yes we argue sometimes, especially I and my mom, but hey I think it is something normal as long we solve it and we are totally good after that. I think it only caused by the generation and culture gap but we know very well that we love each other.
During this trip, I was quite glad, since my dad became the commissioner in his company, he doesn’t need to go to the office everyday which makes him having more time to do his hobbies. His hobbies are pretty much unique. Last time he had lobster farms at home, then switched to created some mats by plants and now producing plants fertilizers.. What a unique family I have which I am really glad to have them as my parents.
On Friday night and Sunday afternoon I went out meeting with some close friends that I knew back in KL. We were pretty much knowing each other’s histories and now most of them are already back in Jakarta and working there.
Those were an exciting Friday night and a beautiful Sunday to meet all of them and I realize that we all have various directions of life and different fates now whereas couple of years ago we were all still the same..University students who lived in student apartments with the money pockets given by our parents to be spent smartly if we didn’t want to suffer at the end of the month. Haha..
Now, one is getting married in the middle of the year and is really happy, one has finally settled with a good boyfriend who is treating her well, ones are still searching for “the one”, one has already moved on from the ex, one is focusing so much on her career and doesn’t want to think about men at the moment, one is still worried with the religion issue with the boyfriend, one has chosen to be a strong single mom as it’s the best decision for her and I am really happy for having them 🙂
6 days seemed too short but it was already good enough since I also couldn’t leave my office longer than that.. Now I am glad for being back in Bali but honestly I still miss my parents and it is a normal feeling I guess..